Back Pain and Sex

The meanings of cries of aha, oho, OMG during sex may drastically change if your partner or you yourself are suffering from back pain.

Back pain is most likely to ruin your sex life altogether. The sense of guilt may further aggravate the pain and strain the relationship as well.

It is estimated that around 35 million people are suffering from back pain in U S alone. It is really difficult to quantify the magnitude of psychological pain that people suffer silently. You cry silently not for yourself but for your partner.

Some people try to put up a brave face. They try to "act" as if nothing is happening to them as they try to straddle over their partners. They even try to mislead their partners with their whoopees but it is difficult to change your body language and facial expressions, try as much as you can. You give yourself away.

The best course is to explain your problem to your back pain specialist without feeling embarrassed. If you do not do so, he may not be able to prescribe the right treatment.

Your partner, of course, is aware of your problem, so it is always better to jointly devise the most convenient sex positions to maximize the enjoyment.

Here are some suggestions about how to get the best out of your sex while you are suffering from back pain.

Take a warm shower or massage the painful area with some lukewarm oil. You may even apply ice pad or some gel to reduce the pain. This will relax your muscles. But do not take pain killers

If you are a man

1. Lie down on a hard surface and place a pillow under your knees. You may place a rolled towel or a thin pillow below your lower back.


2. Try side-by-side embrace position.


3. Allow your partner to ride over you.

You may even sit on the edge of your bed or chair and let your partner do what is needed.

If you are a woman

1. Assume a missionary position and pull your knees towards your chest, but keeping them apart.


2. Sit on the edge of a bed or a chair and make your partner kneel between your legs and enter into you.


3. You may try doggie position to enable him to enter from the backside. You may also place a pillow under your belly/chest or any other painful area of your back.

Check Cosmopolitan magazine for pictures and explanations of these sex positions. Here is one link:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/missionary-sex-positions

These are only the basic suggestions. Since your back pain is unique to you and you know where it hurts most, you may make suitable amendments in your sex positions.

A word of caution

It is assumed that you are getting the right treatment for your pain. Don't try to ride like a stud if you feel slight relief.

Try to improve your performance gradually.

Remember a free and frank communication with your partner and the back pain specialist is very critical to your successful sex life.

You can get guaranteed permanent relief from back pain, whatever its nature and severity without incurring heavy expenses or undergoing painful treatment or popping up pain killers with lethal side effects.


Six months of acupuncture provides more relief for back pain than conventional treatments, according to a large new study. But surprisingly, fake acupuncture works just as well as the real thing.

The German study of nearly 1,200 patients, published today in the Archives of Internal Medicine, is the largest and most rigorous analysis yet of the use of acupuncture to treat back pain. Some of the patients received real acupuncture, which involves inserting thin needles deeply into the skin at specific points on the body. The acupuncturist then manipulates the needles to create a numb radiating sensation called de qi.

Another group received sham acupuncture: the needles were inserted around the back and legs, but only superficially, without manipulation and at points that aren’t traditional acupuncture sites. A third group received treatments based on their doctors’ recommendations, including physical therapy, massage and exercise.

All the study participants met regularly with their doctors, and each patient’s response to treatment was measured on a pain scale, as was the amount of pain medication required.

Nearly half the patients in the acupuncture group reported significant relief, compared to just 27 percent in the conventional therapy group. But nearly as many people in the fake acupuncture group — 44 percent — also reported significant relief.

Real acupuncture did reduce the need for pain medicine. Only 15 percent of patients who received real acupuncture used extra pain medication, but 34 percent of patients in the sham group and 59 percent of patients in conventional therapy needed extra pain pills.

The fact that both the real and the fake forms of needle treatment had such a similar effect was surprising, said the study authors. It may be that the benefits of acupuncture have something to do with the way the body transmits or processes pain signals. Or it could be that the needles caused a “super placebo” effect, triggering a real reaction in the brain that changes the way the body perceives and responds to pain.